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|Thursday, May 17th, 2007|
|I am alive
Not being part of any fandom anymore, I've stopped posting here. I do however have a blog that I update pretty regularly if anyone is interested: http://farmdreams-christy.blogspot.com I do read here every so often to catch up on how everyone is doing.
|Saturday, February 25th, 2006|
|Hug your babies!
A friend of mine just lost her 9 year old daughter after finding out she had leukemia a week ago. The girl had 1 round of chemo and died of complications from that. Hold your children tight and let the little things go. Focus on joy! Say yes more. We never know when we may lose them.
|Thursday, November 10th, 2005|
|My little political activist
I know I haven't written in FOREVER! I've been reading here and there though. I thought this was funny and wanted to share what my 6 year old has been up to.
I think I tramautized Logan during the last election! The other night we were watching West Wing. They are currently having a presidential campaign on the show and this episode was the debate. They set it up to look like an actual debate, with almost no commercials, and even the same guy hosting it. Mark and I watched it like it was a real debate, which meant arguing with the candidates positions, arguing with each other ;) and discussing what we thought. Logan was playing a computer game so he was in and out of the room. One time he walked into the room was when they were debating drilling in Alaska. Logan is passionately opposed to this, so he sat down to watch. He ended up watching the rest of the debate with us and asking questions during it and giving his opinion. During the education part, he told us that school was dumb.
At the end of West Wing, they said you could go online to vote for who you thought won the debate. So Mark and I talked about that some and then Mark went online to check. At first Logan wasn't sure he wanted Mark to check (I think he remembers watching the returns last year and how upset I got). Logan said he hoped The Mother Earth guy won (what he calls democrats), but that he knew the stupid God guy would win. Then he went on this tirade about how the God people don't care about Mother Earth and all they want is money. He was getting pretty worked up. So, I quickly told him this wasn't a real election, it was just TV and it didn't matter who won, it wouldn't change anything. He calmed down and went back to playing. But wouldn't you know it, the Mother Earth guy won! Now, I kind of wish I hadn't told him it was fake, he could have been so happy that his guy won. I think we are going to have to volunteer during the next election.
|Thursday, April 28th, 2005|
|Happy Belated Bday Chen!
Sorry for the lateness of it. I know I've been MIA for a long time. I'm not sure if anyone even remembers me. If anyone is interested I'll try to update what is going on in life soon.
Chen, I'm glad your surgery went well. I'm sorry I haven't been around. I hope your bday was pleasant.
|Saturday, July 24th, 2004|
When people find out I'm homeschooling my son, most ask if I'm afraid they'll be holes in my his education, aren't I afraid I'll miss something important? I always answer, of course they'll be holes in his education, but no, I'm not afraid of missing anything important. On the surface this answer seems contradictory, but on closer examination it makes perfect sense.
Of course they'll be holes in his education. We all haves holes in our education. There is so much to do, see, and learn in this world, there is no way anyone can learn it all. There is no way any school can even come close to teaching it all. How many people graduate high school knowing nothing about chemistry or world politics? How many people graduate college knowing nothing about art or religion?
I have a PhD in biology. I spent 23 years of my life in school. 23 years! I have huge holes in my knowledge. Although I'm a scientist I know very little about physics. I knew even less geology and almost no astronomy. I'm learning more astronomy now because my husband is really interested in it. My holes in other subjects are even larger.
My son wants to build a real combat robot like those seen in Battlebots. I know nothing about this. I have no idea how the mechanics work, how the motors and gears go together to make motion. I don't know how the electronics are hooked up to bring power to all the components. Programming a remote is beyond me. Even the metal working, the seemingly simplest part leaves me at a loss. The good news is I can learn all these things. I am learning all these things. I can fill this hole. However, I will always have holes. So will my son.
No, I'm not afraid of missing anything important. What's important to learn is different for each person. What's important for an artist to know will be totally different than what's important for a mathematician to know. I can't know what will be important to my son, a school certainly can't know what will be important to him, only he can know that. What I do know is that if it is important he will learn it. He may not learn it by the time he is 10 or 15 or even 18, but learning doesn't stop at these ages. Learning happens our entire life. If it is important to know when he is 40, he can learn it then. There is no deadline on learning.
There will definitely be holes in my son's education, but I'm not worried about missing anything important.
|Monday, July 12th, 2004|
|Public service announcement
You guys have made me aware of many things going on in the country that I otherwise would know nothing about, now it is my turn.
This is one of the most digusting things I've ever come across. These people: http://nogreaterjoy.org/index.php?id=27
have written a book called To Train Up A Child about training children the way God intended. You can read about it on Amazon, at least it is getting bad reviews, mine will be forthcoming.
The basic premise is you need to hit children with a whip starting at VERY young ages for very small infractions so that they will learn to obey without question. They say ALL children need to be whipped with a "rod." They call BABIES "tyrants" "terrorists" "whining, spoiled brats" and "devious", with "criminal minds."
They brag about how they whipped their own 4 month old with a whip for grabbing someone's glasses.(p.9). They even bait the child by holding the glasses out so they can hit her when she grabs them.
On p.60 they recommend whipping babies (5 months old) who cannot sleep and are crying, and to never allow them "to get up." On p.61 they recommend whipping a 12 month old girl for crying. On p.79 they recommend whipping a 7 month old for screaming.
On p.65 co-author Debi Pearl whips the bare leg of a 15 month old she is babysitting, 10 separate times, for not playing with something she tells him to play with. On p.56 Debi Pearl hits a 2 your old so hard "a karate chop like wheeze came from somewhere deep inside" him.
On p.59 they recommend whipping a 3 year old until he is "totally
On p.80 they say to whip small children on their bare skin until they stop screaming. "Don't be bullied. Give him more of the same." They say to continue whipping until their crying turns into a "wounded, submissive whimper."
On p.46 the Pearls say that if a child does obey before being
whipped, whip them anyway. And "if you have to sit on him to spank him, then do not hesitate. And hold him there until he is surrendered. Prove that you are bigger, tougher." "Defeat him totally."
They recommend pulling a nursing infant's hair if they bite while nursing (p.7), and tripping a non-swimming toddler so she falls into deep water to teach her to stay away from the water.(p.67)
These are just a few of the fine examples in this book. It makes me totally sick to think that someone would treat children this way. The fact that these people wrote a book to basically brag about how they abuse their children is horrendous. And people are following the advice in this book. If someone treated an animal this way they would go to jail for animal cruelty.
I am a big believer that children should be treated with the same respect that we treat other human beings. Just because they are little doesn't mean they are less than human. They have their own thoughts, feelings, wants, needs and those should be respected as we would anyone else's. I try to follow of practice of if I wouldn't do it to another adult, I won't do it to my son. I believe letting a child cry it out is child abuse, I don't even know how to classify hitting them and then letting them cry it out as infants. I lay down with my son every night until he is asleep. He falls asleep in the arms of the person who loves him most in the world. Think how much more trusting and secure he is than a baby that is hit and left to cry herself to sleep. UGH!
As if all this wasn't bad enough, here is a place where you can buy "the rod" to do your whipping. I feel truly sick, I couldn't sleep at all last night thinking about this. There are places to protest "The Rod" and many people are trying to get the book pulled from Amazon. I don't know how these people aren't in jail!http://parentinginjesusfootsteps.org/images/rod-ad-product-review.jpg Current Mood: sick
|Friday, July 9th, 2004|
We just got back from out family reunion in NC. It was fun but exhausting! It was a 2 day drive both ways, on the way down with my grandparents. It was stressful for me trying to keep the boy happy in the car for 2 days, my grandfather tends to not have much patience for fussing etc. But overall it went well. I'm having a really hard time recovering, I'm just so tired.
Monday marks the half way point for summer session. It is going fine, but I'm ready for it to be over. I'm teaching 2 sections in the fall and am thinking about taking the spring semester off. I'd like to take Logan and go traveling to visit relatives, that would be much easier to do if I'm not having to work around my teaching schedule. I got my evaluations from last semester back, 100% positive! My very fragile ego needed the boost. I wish I didn't care so much what these things said.
I'm hoping to see Chen while she is in NY, since I'm not going to Writercon. Not sure if our schedules are going to mesh this time, working 2 nights a week makes it hard for me to travel.
That's about it for now. Hope everyone is well.
|Sunday, June 20th, 2004|
|OK, I'll play
This is all WAY too true. Glad I don't live there anymore! Too bad my parents still do, so I'm there about once a month.
You Know You're From Northern Virginia If...
1. Speed limits are just suggestions
2. You take a major highway to school (95, 66,28, etc)
3. You constantly complain about there being nothing to do, even though you are right next to DC
4. You have at least 2 friends who have no idea what their parents do because its "top secret" government work
5. 50% of your senior class plans on going either to Mason, JMU, Tech or UVA (I went to Tech)
6. When people ask where you're from, you tell them DC because its easier to explain
7. You've never told someone you're from Virginia without putting "northern" in front of it
8. When you and your friends get bored you all whip out your cell phones and start playing with them
9. Its not actually tailgating unless your bumper is touching the car in front of you.
10. A yellow light means at least 5 more cars can get through.
11. A red light means 2 more can.
12. It takes you 30 minutes to drive 10 miles
13. Your local news is national news
14. If you hear the word "sniper" one more time you're going to slap someone
15. You actually know what the black boxes at stoplights are for
16. Even if your high school is only a year old, its already overcrowded
17. You have over 500 students in your graduating class (I had almost 600, and that was 16 years ago!)
18. Despite the fact that Virginia fought for the south in the Civil War, you are NOT, under ANY circumstances, a "southerner"
19. You are friends with people from at least 2 other high schools
20. You know at least 2 people who drive a mercedes, BMW, Lexus, etc.
21. The cars in the student parking lot are woth 3x those in the teacher parking lot.
22. You are amused by visiting relatives who are actually excited to see Washington DC
23. You are amazed when you go out of town and the people at McDonalds speak english
24. You can cross 4 lanes of traffic in under 30 seconds
25. There are at least 3 malls within 20 minutes of your house
26. There are at least 6 Starbucks within 20 minutes of your house
27. You or someone in your family has a Smart Tag
28. Homework/Extra credit for a class has been to visit a museum in DC
29. When traveling, you have your choice of 3 airports
30. You don't actually like the Redskins/Wizards (except when Jordan was playing)
31. An inch of snow and you miss 3 days of school
32. All the potholes just add a little excitement to your driving experience
33. Stop signs mean slow down a little, but only if you feel like it
34. A rich white kid driving a BMW while blasting rap music is a common occurance
35. You call things "ghetto" even though in most of the rest of the country it'd be high class
36. You or most of your friends have a 3 car garage
37. You don't actually keep your cars in it.
38. When you were driving on the beltway at 2:13am on a Tuesday there was still traffic
39. Crown Victoria = undercover cop
40. A slow driver is someone who isn't going at least 10mph over the speed limit
41. You understand the meaning of "If you don't get it, you don't get it"
42. Subway is a fast food place. The transportation system is known as Metro, and only Metro
43. You've taken a wrong turn somewhere late at night and ended up in a bad part of DC(ex. anacostia)
44. Most of Loudoun County is the "middle of nowhere"
45. They just tore down the old farm house across the street and put 12 new houses in its place
46. The word Hfstival actually means something to you
47. Someone has honked at you because you didn't peal out the second the light turned green.
48. You've honked at someone because they didn't peal out the second the light turned green.
49. Rush hour lasts all day
50. For the cost of your house, you could own a small town in Iowa
51. Helicopters and airplanes flying above your neighborhood is a normal occurance.
52. 9:30 isnt just a time, its a place. (I almost lived there when I was in high school)
|Sunday, June 13th, 2004|
|Yes, I am alive!
I thought I'd update and let you all know that I'm alive and well. I've been reading LJ about once a week and kind of keeping up. I've been busy with the boy and hubby, I decided I needed to spend more time with them and less on the computer. It seems to be working out well for all of us. Hubby and I are getting along a lot better than we were 6 months ago.
Summer session starts on Wednesday and I'm really, really, REALLY NOT looking forward to it. This summer session is going to be 3 class meetings shorter than in the past. So, I have to cover the same amount of material in 3 less lectures. I see disaster coming!
I've really been thinking about quitting and doing something else. The more I learn about brain development and how people learn, the more I think the way we do education in this country is totally wrong. And the more I think about it, the harder it gets for me to be part of it, even if it is at the college level. I can see everyday how what I'm doing as an instructor just isn't the best way to do things. I'm working a job that goes against my beliefs. Problem is, it is easy and pays well. Sigh, that is the whole reason I haven't quit yet. I can't think of anything else I could do that would pay even close to what I make. Tutoring would be close, but again I would be supporting a system I don't believe in.
Anyway, I hope those of you that have been having a hard time lately are finding things easier. I wish I was around more to support you all. I'm so glad you are all here!
|Wednesday, May 12th, 2004|
How much do you tip for a massage? I got a gift certificate for a 50 minute massage that I am using tonight. On the gift certificate it says gratuity not included, so obviously I am supposed to tip. I just have no idea how much.
|Tuesday, May 4th, 2004|
|Not sure it is true, but I like the way it sounds
created by Polly Snodgrass.
||WATER OF EARTH. Mommy! Well, you could be. You are good with plants and small creatures such as children. You're very generous and basically great hearted. You probably make mad whack cookies and are good at managing the household; also businesses. You'd make a good tax person, book keeper, gardener, massage therapist, etc. The ever domestic and practical one, you can stretch a penny and make ramen noodles go a long way.
|Thursday, April 22nd, 2004|
|Happy Earth Day!
Today is a big day for Logan and I since we worship in the form of Mother Earth. Logan thinks today is Her birthday. We've been giving her presents all week and have cool stuff planned for today.
I decided to stop taping Angel, I haven't seen the last 4 eps even though I have them on tape and I don't really want to watch them. I know I'm a fickle fan, but after Wes told Cordy that he remembered Lilah I was done. I am a huge Wes/Lilah supporter and to find out he remembered Lilah and was still panting after Fred, well it was the final straw. They had already killed my Spike and replaced him with the babbling idiot I can't stand. I've also read the spoilers for the final ep and didn't see anything there to make me want to keep watching. Why am I boring you with this? Because I want to ask a favor. Possible spoilery stuff in my favor so I will cut...( Read more...Collapse )
|Saturday, April 17th, 2004|
|Logan's Owl Pellet Class
About a month ago, Logan and I were dissecting an owl pellet at home. Owls eat their prey whole, swallowing bones and all. After they digest the meat, they cough up the fur and bones of the prey, this is an owl pellet. You can open up the pellet and find the bones of what they owl ate, if you are lucky you can even reconstruct the skeleton. While doing this, Logan suggested I teach this to my students. He came and watched me teach one night and has since been fascinated with what I teach my students. Since I teach college chemistry, the owl pellet didn't really fit the curriculum, but I liked his idea. I decided we should organize and host an owl pellet class for homeschoolers. Logan loved this idea. We put out the word and ordered the pellets.
The day of the class we had over 30 kids and 14 adults. The room was packed. I gave a short talk about owls and what owl pellets were and then Logan stood up on his chair and did a demonstration of how owls hunt. He had a stuffed animal bat and a stuffed animal owl. He showed the bat flying and then the owl swooping down and catching the bat in mid-air and swallowing it whole. The demonstration was entirely his idea, we found the animals and everything. It was so cute, of course the batteries in the camera were dead so I didn't get any pictures of him teaching his first class. Everyone had a great time and learned a lot.
Logan's first class idea was a big hit!
|Thursday, April 15th, 2004|
|Saturday, April 10th, 2004|
|you are darkseagreen|
Your dominant hue is green. You're logical and steadfast, focused on figuring life out and doing what makes sense. You value being trusted because you know you're taking the time to figure things out and everyone should just follow you.
Your saturation level is low - You stay out of stressful situations and advise others to do the same. You may not be the go-to person when something really needs done, but you know never to blow things out of proportion.
Your outlook on life is brighter than most people's. You like the idea of influencing things for the better and find hope in situations where others might give up. You're not exactly a bouncy sunshine but things in your world generally look up.
|the spacefem.com html color quiz|
|Tuesday, March 30th, 2004|
|A long update
I haven't written in awhile because I've been going through a bit of an identiy crisis (I guess you could call it). I've been depressed and feeling totally overwhelmed with life for 3 or 4 months. The evaluations I got back from my students a month or so ago where the final straw that sent things into a spiral. I was walking around angry and resentful, hating everything I had to do. Hating how no one appreciated all I did, even though I didn't want to do it. I really wanted to quit my job and drop out of sight for awhile. It wasn't a pretty scene, I feel really bad for my son and husband now. ( Read more...Collapse )
|Monday, March 15th, 2004|
|Ugh, I'm worried
Everyone remember my stray cat that I feed and take in when it is really cold out? I took him to Petco to get his shots yesterday, figuring I'd better at least get the rabies one to keep us all safe. I told the vet and the tech that he was a stray and wild so they needed to be careful. Long story short, they weren't careful enough and the vet got bit, hard! He bled a lot. I felt awful about it and asked what I should do but they said nothing. So I brought the cat home, keep him in for a few hours to make sure he was ok from the shots and then let him out because he was getting really restless to go out. We got a call tonight from someone from the vet that was giving the shots to find out if we had the cat in quarantine. We don't, they didn't tell us to do that. She said we should really have him in quarantine for 10 days. Mark talked to her and told her the cat was a stray that we took in and brought for shots and that the cat was currently outside. The woman was like Oh, you should really have him in quarantine. Mark told her we would do our best. But now I'm really worried, what if she calls the SPCA and has them investigate? I feed him and bring him in when it is cold, but he does live outside. What if that isn't good enough and they take him? Or put him to sleep because he bit the vet? I know living outside isn't the best life for him, but he really isn't adoptable. He trusts me to a point, but he is a wild cat. I'm really worried about this whole situation.
|Tuesday, March 2nd, 2004|
|I hate waiting!
I'm waiting to get sick. Hubby was throwing up sick last week, he had a fever and body aches in addition to the throwing up for 24 hours. The boy started throwing up Friday night, he threw up for about 5 hours, feel asleep, and was fine the next day. So, I'm just waiting. I don't think there is anyway they are both going to get this and I'm not. Waiting to throw up sucks!! Everything I eat I ask myself is this something I want to be throwing up? I've been eating very bland for a few days. I wish it would hurry up and get here already. I work tomorrow night and really can't cancel class. They would fall behind and I wouldn't get paid. Come on sickness!!
|Friday, February 27th, 2004|
|I'm a real writer now
I got my first official rejection yesterday. I opened the envelope (yep, they mailed it to me), read it and said shit or something to that effect. My son asked me what was wrong. I told him that the people didn't want Turtle's Bedtime Walk, a kids bedtime story I wrote. Logan loves the story, so he asked why they didn't want it? I told him I didn't know, it must not have been what they were looking for. He thought about that for a minute and then said, "send it to someone else." I swear my kid is very wise. He asked me to read it to him again and said he still liked it. So, I guess I will take his advice and send it to someone else. I think one of those kids literary magazines.
So, I guess I'm a real writer now.
|Wednesday, February 25th, 2004|